Serious relationship questions

1) If my girlfriend has trust issues with me, how do I go about re-assuring her? What's a step in the right direction?

2) How do you know when it's over? A relationship that is? What should I look for?

Nick asked both of these questions and the first thing that struck me was that they are probably not 2 separate concerns, but really one causing the other.

1. If your are asking "if my girlfriend has trust issues?" I hear, my girlfriend has trust issues, and there is probably no doubt about that.

• Before I can answer this question I need to know if the trust issues are due to something that actually happened i.e. you have given her reason not to trust you, cheated or strayed?
• The alternative is that she is a jealous girl by nature and they aren't trust issues but rather insecurities. In this case her issues are not quite rational but pervasive no matter how you try to show her there is no one else.

2. I think it is over when you are no longer into the person. Everyone has a different way of showing it. Some universal signs are:

• A noticeable change in time spent together
• A change in intimacy level or intensity.
• A gut feeling.
• Your relationship has been on and off.
• She has new "friends" she is spending time with.
• You know when it's over when you are not feeling the warm and fuzzies.

These are general questions that we have all faced, please add a comment to help Nick with his relationship queries. The advice girl welcomes all comments and encourages support from readers.